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Being Good Enough - Five Tips
How many times have not you and I heard that we are not good enough in our lives. No wonder so many of us have poor self-esteem, and feel useless regardless of how we are performing.
If you look in newspapers, on TV or hear people talking in meetings so often the words `is not good enough`, `not good`, `how could you`, etc. show up. Our whole society is structured around being good enough, that we forget that we all really are as good as we can be.
What caused this mass hysteria on whether to be fit, and causes us to compete regarding who is the most successful, attractive, has the finest jacket or who is the best in the club? To begin with, I have news for you! Nobody is born the best nor with the feeling about being good enough or not good enough, but we have received this from our surroundings.
If you are not the reason you do not feel good enough, who or what is the reason then? The reasons are many and different for each of us. But one thing is for sure, the feeling of not being good enough is probably the most destructive feeling we can have about ourselves, and unfortunately, it is often with us throughout our lives.
Feeling that you are not good enough not only leads to external health symptoms such as eating disorders, depression and burnout, but other symptoms too, like poor finances and relationships, for they are simply a reflection of what you think about yourself deep within. Obviously, we have individuals who have poor finances and think highly of themselves and individuals who are wealthy whom hate themselves, but in general, this claim is true.
Why have we not solved this mystery? Firstly it is not because of you or me, but we have with us several generations of self-images, which became a part of us from birth. We see our parents` behavior and soak up their feelings like a sponge. In short, we have certainly acquired their self-esteem but that we can defend ourselves from.
Parents, in turn, have gotten their self-image from their parents, and we have been indirectly affected up to six generations back in time. No wonder that so many carry so much sorrow and debt, given the history that most families have.
You are not responsible for feeling that you are not good enough, but you are responsible for creating a feeling that you are good enough now. No one else can solve this for you. No hatred or contempt against parents and the environment will ever solve your bad self-image, but the solution is how you can build your internal belief in yourself.
Here are some tips that help you along the way:
1. You are good enough in all situations regardless of what anyone else thinks about you
2. You are good enough regardless of what you think about yourself
3. Once you understand that you are good enough, you will build up your self-esteem slowly
4. Once you understand that you are good enough, you will not be offended by others
5. If the insults occur or continue to change the environment, that is there where your surroundings accept you as you are
Remember that you are unique and are good enough, regardless of what others think of you.
Good Luck!
Regards,
ashok..
Being Good Enough - Five Tips
How many times have not you and I heard that we are not good enough in our lives. No wonder so many of us have poor self-esteem, and feel useless regardless of how we are performing.
If you look in newspapers, on TV or hear people talking in meetings so often the words `is not good enough`, `not good`, `how could you`, etc. show up. Our whole society is structured around being good enough, that we forget that we all really are as good as we can be.
What caused this mass hysteria on whether to be fit, and causes us to compete regarding who is the most successful, attractive, has the finest jacket or who is the best in the club? To begin with, I have news for you! Nobody is born the best nor with the feeling about being good enough or not good enough, but we have received this from our surroundings.
If you are not the reason you do not feel good enough, who or what is the reason then? The reasons are many and different for each of us. But one thing is for sure, the feeling of not being good enough is probably the most destructive feeling we can have about ourselves, and unfortunately, it is often with us throughout our lives.
Feeling that you are not good enough not only leads to external health symptoms such as eating disorders, depression and burnout, but other symptoms too, like poor finances and relationships, for they are simply a reflection of what you think about yourself deep within. Obviously, we have individuals who have poor finances and think highly of themselves and individuals who are wealthy whom hate themselves, but in general, this claim is true.
Why have we not solved this mystery? Firstly it is not because of you or me, but we have with us several generations of self-images, which became a part of us from birth. We see our parents` behavior and soak up their feelings like a sponge. In short, we have certainly acquired their self-esteem but that we can defend ourselves from.
Parents, in turn, have gotten their self-image from their parents, and we have been indirectly affected up to six generations back in time. No wonder that so many carry so much sorrow and debt, given the history that most families have.
You are not responsible for feeling that you are not good enough, but you are responsible for creating a feeling that you are good enough now. No one else can solve this for you. No hatred or contempt against parents and the environment will ever solve your bad self-image, but the solution is how you can build your internal belief in yourself.
Here are some tips that help you along the way:
1. You are good enough in all situations regardless of what anyone else thinks about you
2. You are good enough regardless of what you think about yourself
3. Once you understand that you are good enough, you will build up your self-esteem slowly
4. Once you understand that you are good enough, you will not be offended by others
5. If the insults occur or continue to change the environment, that is there where your surroundings accept you as you are
Remember that you are unique and are good enough, regardless of what others think of you.
Good Luck!
Regards,
ashok..
